It’s typically simple to recognize the Nasty Nancy or Debbie Downer who has wreaked havoc on workplace culture, or who has been dragging down the holiday spirit of a family event.
And the more you know how toxic these people are to your well-being, the better. If you feel like they don’t make you a better person, just a bad person, they’re in your way and they need to be replaced.
One more thing I think you ought to be very vigilant about is determining who you socially and professionally work within your life. What I’ve noticed is that the most popular people I’ve ever known have made it a practice to stop unpleasant people.
Being happy doesn’t mean being influenced by as many people as possible, it’s about being around others who help you dream in different ways and are always there for you in times of need. But inevitably, at a certain point, you will still endure the negativity of others who make you feel like you’re nobody. And they definitely don’t merit a taste of your time.
Negative individuals may also give us difficulties on an individual basis. Maybe that’s the neighbor who’s going to make you crack your teeth. Or maybe it’s a buddy you’re avoiding at all costs. It is necessary to identify when these unpleasant people intrude in your life in an unwelcome fashion.
On a more optimistic note, the faster you have their masks off, the more hassle you’ll be protecting yourself from in the long run. But beware, for these people are going to do whatever they can to hang on to you and manipulate you. If you break free of them, you’ll actually be able to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
Here are some strategies to stay away from Negative People.
1. Choose Your Attitude
Spending time with unhappy people will be the best way to kill a positive mood. Their bleak outlook and depressive mood will diminish our morale and change the way we feel. But having a negative person to dictate the feelings is giving them so much strength.
Create a deliberate decision to choose your own mindset. Build a motto like, “I’m trying to be optimistic today about the people around me,” and use it regularly to help you stay on track. Take some deep breaths and plan to make it a better day, regardless of what others think or do.
2. You are in control of your life, and you have the freedom to choose who comes in and who comes outside.
Of course, at first, you may not feel confident about cutting off these people, but after it’s done, you’ll be glad you’ve made the decision. No matter how much you like, you can’t change people in your life, because they’re either healthy or harmful. This is a very critical fact that you have to come to terms with.
When someone is doing foul things about someone to you, odds are they’re talking poorly to people about you too. And it is a perfect place to start when it comes to finding those individuals. But please be aware that others are going to be much sneakier in what they do. A solid way to keep them at a distance is to keep an eye on whether they follow up their comments with acts.
3. It damages your credibility
If you surround yourself with cynical rude naysayers, then you do not know it because other people in your life will judge you from others whom you associate with. If you hang around the negative, narrow-minded people it makes you look negative and small-minded yourself.
Always be subtle in choosing your group because it affects a lot of social and personal life. Because of them, you will lose your credibility everywhere you go.
4. If you feel suffocated by others, don’t think twice about throwing them out of your existence.
They’re trying to find out stuff on their own, and if that learning makes them change their ways, then that’s cool as well.
Life is not eternal, and we need to make the most of it while we can. Do not encourage harmful entities to destroy the enjoyment of your life-it is yours and you should be in complete ownership of it.
5. You won’t grow
They can revel in depression and pessimistic thoughts if you’re friends with bad people, and they just do not want to develop. They try to stop you from growing as well because they don’t want to grow. The best path in your life to go ahead is to interact with individuals who are already going ahead who help you move forward with yours.
So, in the end, it’s up to you to know what kind of people you’re going to be friends with, and what kind of people you’re going to be friends with. I highly recommend that if you have bad friends you can terminate the relationship. We should spend as little time with them as possible if you have derogatory members of the family.
The world’s pessimistic people depend on drama, and trust me — it’s not something you need in your life. In addition, they want to include you in the drama as a character. As Tony Gaskins once said, “bad individuals need drama like air, remain optimistic, it will take away their breath.”
Decide that you won’t allow toxic individuals to decide how you think, feel, and act. Take your intensity back and spend your time and energy on being your true self.
Identify the people in your life who are optimistic. Schedule time for them proactively on a frequent basis. Just as bitter people can rub off on you, a good person can brighten your mood.